 
I'm very excited today to be putting up my 6th interview in my series, padme's interviews. This is my first interview of 2007!! If anyone wishes to be interviewed please e-mail me at mailto:shyanne.blog@gmail.comI hope to continue this series as long as possible. Please consider doing this!! I really need more interviews. This is a great chance to let other's out there know more about you and your blog. Maybe get new reader's. I enjoy it a lot also. I'd like to thank everyone who has participated in this series. If you have missed any interview's just check out the drop down menu in padme's interviews. They are all there!!
I had a wonderful day yesterday as you could tell from Master Anakin's post yesterday and picture of my freshly spanked ass. I hope to blog about yesterday later in the week. We also took many erotic photos yesterday. Master is hoping to use one for our HNT later this week. We had a lot of fun and I feel very focused and happy today. I feel very submissive and my force is through Master. I still feel a bit of a endorphin haze still from the spankings with his paddle and belt. There is nothing that is more relaxing than a day tied up and fucked and spanked. :)
I did my weigh in this morning and I've lost two pounds this week!! Yeah!! I've worked very hard for it. My personal trailer is keeping me on track with my fitness and goals. I've already done my workout this morning. I hope everyone is enjoying their weekend.
Today I am interviewing two really nice blogger's Cindy and Dave from His to Spank, His to Love. I'd like to thank them for letting me interview them and for sharing two of their very erotic photos from their blog. I tried to add more questions to the interview as requested by the reader's. Their erotic photo's are some of my favorite on the blog's and I have become a regular reader to their blog. They have a really great blog and update frequently. They are both really talented writer's and I enjoy their posts and stories. They have poll's, spanker hints, reflections and many different things to read on their blog. Please stop by their blog today and tell them I sent you!! I know they'd love to hear from everyone.
The first thing you see when you go to their blog is a description of their blog which says:
The shared thoughts of a woman who needs limits and consequences in her life, and the man who loves her and accepts her, and lovingly supplies them.
Interview with His to Spank, His to Love
1. Q: What is the name of your blog? How did you come up with the name? A: "Our blog is called His to Spank, His to Love. Because that is exactly how it is! The name comes directly from Us … how we see ourselves. Though our relationship is not 24/7 physically at this time, it is a D/d relationship, with some D/s undertones, some Daddy moments and lots of playful spanking as well. We really try to avoid labels, because we both believe that each person/relationship is unique, and we do not want to be cubby-holed, nor do we want to do that to anyone else. Above all, we want to remain open to the changes that are necessary and unavoidable in a relationship."
"We came up with that phrase as we were searching for something to describe Us to be embroidered on a bra, panty, thong set … and those words just seemed to best describe us!"
2. Q: How long have you been blogging? What made you want to start a blog? A: "We started our blog in October of 2006, so we’ve only been blogging for a few months. We’d talked for a while about having a web site to share … Us things, and Dave surprised me one night with the blog! We just really wanted to connect on some level with others who would understand what we were feeling and saying, without there having to be lengthy explanations. Questions are wonderful! Neither of us minds those … and often it makes us think deeper and we learn new things ourselves."
3. Q: How long have you both been into spanking? A: Cindy - "I remember thoughts as far back as age 6! But as far as adult spanking activities, about 9 years now. I pretty much think we were born with it!"
Dave - "We just talked about this on our blog. My first memories are also at the age of 6 or 7. It’s been a part of me, my thoughts, my actions, ever since."
4. Q: What are Cindy's rules? A: 1) He loves me no matter what 2) I can never be too naughty 3) Tell him when I’m scared 4) No lies 5) NO panties under jammies! (Wow … does that upset him!) 6) If I want or need to know something … just ask. 7) No panty or thong peek, unless he’s with me, so people know who I belong to. 8) No major purchases without consultation. (Our blog contains a multipart account of the last time I did this … and paid for it!) 9) No open flames in the house when I’m gone! (this is a ‘new’ rule as Dave arrived last Friday and I had my tart burner going when he came in. Alas … that meant a spanking!)
5. Q: What is your favorite spanking toy? A: Cindy - "wow. A favorite! Hmmm. Can I have more than one favorite? Ok … well … aside from Dave’s hand, I’d have to say … right now it’s the crop. Yes … they do change! With my moods it seems. A while back it was the ping-pong paddle … before that the belt. Hmmm. A spanko with ever changing toy needs!"
Dave - "Well, always the belt. It holds such emotion and feeling. Behind that, I agree with Cindy that it changes depending on lots of factors, but the belt always comes first."
6. Q: What is your least favorite spanking toy? A: Cindy - "Wow … again! For serious spankings, definitely the brush. Definitely. Fast second, the cane. Fast third, the belt. Fast fourth, the strop."
Dave - "I don’t understand the question?!?!? The words “least favorite” and “spanking toy” don’t make sense in the same sentence!!! [LOL] I guess least favorite would be anything that doesn't get a reaction, but we haven't found one of those yet."
7. Q: What is your most memorable spanking? A: Cindy - "On the first Valentines Day that we ever spent together, Dave ended up spanking me for not taking care of me, and doing something risky. It was a very hard OTK spanking with the brush, and I fought him hard, but he kept me right there and he kept spanking. At one point I thrashed out with my hands and threw an overnight case off the bed. But he still didn’t stop. Didn’t even pause. Just kept scolding and spanking - right past my fussing, right past my anger, till I was so incredibly deep in that place where I go … and then I came. Hard. It was so very unexpected, and after that I was just still … accepting. He still spanked, but not as hard, and not for long. I’ll just never forget that spanking … ever."
Dave - "I have to agree just because it was the most angry Cindy ever got, and the hardest she ever fought to escape her punishment. Then when she came hard unexpectedly, there was this complete transformation that washed over her. After that she just lay still and sobbed, and took the rest of her spanking calmly. Probably second would be her first public outdoor spanking, which we talked about in our Public Spanking post. That was the first time she 'squirted' when she came hard. "
8. Q: Are you both into any role-playing, bdsm activities or dress up or D/s? A: Cindy - "We really don’t do any role-playing - we do have Daddy/baby girl interactions … but it’s not role play. If that makes sense. I just have times when I whine or stomp my foot, or am near or in tears, and it seems … so natural."
"We are into some BDSM activities … bondage, discipline and punishment on other parts of my body besides my bottom."
Dave- "I'm more into it than Cindy is, but I understand that the D/d part of us is so deep in each of us that there's really no reason for it. Daddy/baby girl is about as close as we get, but I'm still trying to get Cindy to say "Daaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaddy!" during those instead of "Daaaaaaaaaaaaave!!"
9. Q: Are you both Star wars fans? If so, what was your favorite movie? A: Cindy - "I wouldn’t say I’m a fan, and I did see the first movie long ago! I love my Star Wars PEZ dispensers! Lots! Does Star Trek count?"
Dave - "I’ve seen them all, and enjoyed them all, but I’m certainly not at the level you and Master Anakin are, for sure! I enjoy movies, but I don’t even own a TV. I think I spent too many years as a voyeur to the rest of the world, and not living myself. Now I try to make sure I put MY life, MY world first, and avoiding anything ‘entertainment’ related as much as I can."
10. Q: What is your most memorable sexual experience together? A: Cindy - "one of the most memorable for me was the first time I ever ‘squirted’ … it was so very intense, and has since become a very special part of Us. It happened during an outdoor spanking when I was on my way to visit friends and had a lay-over near where Dave lived. So … it was my first ‘public’ spanking … how special is that!"
"I guess, we’ve found so much that touches us deep in our relationship, things we’d known about, obviously, but that fit inside Us different than either of us had ever experienced them before. Normal stuff … with a deeper … emotion? I don’t know!"
Dave - “Finding Cindy” is my most memorable experience. It feels like the whole relationship has been one intense sexual experience. But, not to cop out on your question, I think what’s very special is that neither of us was very into or attracted to oral sex before we found each other. Now it’s something we both find incredibly passionate and enjoyable. Finding something that’s special and unique between the two of you, that didn’t ’work’ with others just means we’re connecting on a level higher than we have before."
11. Q" What is the hardest spanking Cindy has ever received? A: Cindy - "This one has two answers, because I can’t decide which was harder. One - for not ‘taking care of His girl’ … I drove around the locked gates at a local state park in the winter and ended up with a ticket that landed me some community service time. For that I was tied on the bed, spread eagled, and spanked HARD with the strop …"
" Two - again, for not taking care of His girl by not wearing my seatbelt continuously. It was during a real rough time for me, but that didn’t matter. He actually ended up spanking me with the buckle end of the belt during one part of the spanking … that is how upset he was."
Dave - "Another one that stands out was very early in our relationship. Cindy was still seeing another spanker occasionally as part of her initial exploration into adult spanking. I sensed something wasn't exactly right beforehand and instructed her to NOT let him restrain her. Well ... she did. And he completely disregarded predetermined limits they had established. As part of her punishment I made Cindy decide what would be appropriate punishment. She eventually decided she needed to be tied bent over a table, arms stretched out above her head, legs spread and secured to the table legs, and have me 'recreate' the spanking she had received from him. It was a form of reclaiming her as Mine; washing alway the other spanking. I was so disappointed that she hadn't listened to me, and really scared that she'd let herself be put in such a vulnerable position after we'd discussed it at length beforehand. It was an incredibly hard session, and I believe the last time she ever met with someone 1-on-1 for spanking other than me."
"(She has been spanked by another woman with me present; and any and all future 3rd party spankings will be done jointly as something we are BOTH seeking to fulfill something we want for US.)"
12. Q: How did you two meet? Are you married/engaged/ or living together? How long have you both known each other? A: "We were introduced in a round-about way. I attended a spanking party with my ex-husband, and met a woman there, though we didn’t interact much. She was friends of another spanking friend of mine, and she did become friends with my ex-husband … but she knew Dave! And a few weeks after the party she told Dave she knew someone he should meet … and he IM’ed me one night … and that was the beginning of a very special friendship, that many years later has evolved into us."
"We currently live 500 miles apart, but get together for about a week every six to eight weeks. We also go to Sturgis motorcycle rally together every August for a week. Basically we get together as much as we can, and hope to be together 24/7 sometime in the future. We’ve known each other for almost 7 years now."
13. Q: What are your hobbies? A: Cindy - "Photography, especially candid photos, writing, landscape gardening, as opposed to vegetable gardening! Though my grand daughter and I did plant tomatoes and peppers last summer and the experience was wonderful! Riding … LOVE riding the Valkyre (motorcycle) … can’t get enough of it! Even if my bottom feels VERY well spanked after a 500 mile day! And also, home improvement - but only because I bought an older home and it’s a necessity! But I have learned a lot! Even if sometimes it’s just to learn how much I have yet to learn! Collecting PEZ dispensers, reading, Tao energy work, and a HUGE passion is nature. Just sunlight, fresh air, trees … woods … bird songs. Wow … I do tend to ramble! Animals … also animals. Big passion."
"And did I mention spanking?"
Dave - "Motorcycling definitely comes first. I ride about 13,000 miles year, which is as much as I can fit into my schedule until I win the lottery and don't have to work any more! We're just beginning to explore the Tao energy work. Cindy gave me the book, The MultiOrgamic Man, and just .... WOW! It really does work if you take the time to practice. Feeling the energy actually MOVE within you, to control that movement is awesome. We also have The MultiOrgasmic Couple, and I look forward very much to the day we will have the time together to work on transferring the energy between us. We did have one experience where was I able to move some of my energy into Cindy's arm, and it got all warm and tingly. As 'complete' as we feel inside of Us, we also know there is so much growth still ahead."
14. Q: Can you tell people a bit about yourselves?
A: Cindy - "I’m 42, mother of two, a boy and a girl, and gram to a veeeeeeeeery special little girl. Oh … mom also to a golden retriever, Kasha, and a kitty cat, Kia … and presently foster mom to a pregnant stray cat and her kitten … and about 3 other stray cats. I work full time and then some, always try to find time to search for the moon. Really, just an everyday person living an every day life with the added spice of D/d and spanking thrown in!"
Dave - "I'm 45, and have an incredible son with my second wife. We've been separated about 19 months. I've been in sales for about 15 years. The first 13 I worked regionally in the Midwest, but now I cover Canada and the USA, so I spend a LOT of time in airports! But without the traveling I do Cindy and I would see a lot less of each other, and that's just not acceptable."
15. Q: Are there any future plans for your blog?
A: Before we started the blog, we talked often about wanting someplace to share these ‘interests’ … where it was acceptable and where someone might learn something from us, and where we had the opportunity to learn from others. We decided then that our blog had to be for Us, first and foremost. It had to benefit us, it had to fit inside of us … it had to reflect the real us."
"Honestly there are SO many good blogs out there! All we want is to share our interests and thoughts and feelings in a non-judgmental atmosphere. We do have ideas for things we’d like to try … but nothing concrete so far."
"As long as we can make it a place that others find something interesting to read about or think about, to ask about or to help answer for us … then it’s exactly what we wanted."
"And besides … it’s lots of fun!"
"We did also decide very early on, that we would keep a few nights a week where we didn’t blog at all … write or read, and make that Our time. Just Us. I can easily see where it could take over and become so very addictive and I hope we can always keep it in perspective."
16. Q: Are you two more into erotic spankings or is there any Domestic discipline in your relationship?
A: "D/d is the foundation of our relationship, though erotic spankings get their fair share of attention!"
17. Q: Have you two ever switched? (meaning has Dave ever gotten spanked?)
A: Cindy - "We don’t ‘switch’, but I have spanked Dave. I absolutely cannot scold … but I LOVE spanking as much as he loves feeling it. It’s not an all the time thing … I don’t decide when he gets a spanking! At all. But if he is feeling a need, then I can spank. We started out slow, and he really helped me with the feelings inside. I was scared to be quite honest! But now, I especially love spanking with the strop. I’ve found a way that is very comfortable for me to spank, and I can really control the spanks … where I want them to land. And I have to admit … watching his bottom after a spank lands really turns me on! Pressing close to his warm bottom afterward is also a huge turn on. And … I have rubbed myself on his warm bottom until I’ve cum on him."
"I still have moments when I am spanking where a swat gone wrong makes me want to turn tail and run! And it almost makes me laugh at myself. He’ll often tell me to spank harder, he can REALLY take hard spanks!"
"Years ago, I would never have imagined that I could spank someone, and I have no desire to spank anyone else … or to scold or anything like that. But I can say now that I truly understand many of the aspects of spanking that I never would have known."
Dave - "Being spanked is very much an erotic experience I sometimes crave. Although I don't get erect during a spanking I do get very drippy at times. I LOVE the feeling of a belt cracking on my bottom, or the thud of the strop. I'm not wild about wooden implements, but they're starting to grow on me. I very much "top from the bottom" when Cindy spanks. She really was so scared and tentative when we began and needed lots of reassurance and coaching. Now she's become quite good, and has gained a lot of confidence."
"We have discussed eventually finding a woman who can actually punish me, as this is simply something Cindy can't do, and I don't want her to either. Our dynamic is D/d and we are only balanced and centered when I'm the HOH, and she lets me make the decisions. However, I'm pretty sure we won't seriously start the search for this woman until we can be together 24/7."
18. Q: What is Cindy’s favorite spanking position?
A: Cindy - "Snuggled over his lap for a good girl spanking … definitely! After that, a position where my bottom is high up in the air. That is a huge thing for me … very deep feelings attached with it for some reason."
Dave – "Her LEAST favorite position is standing in the middle of the room bent over unsupported by any furniture. Whether it's feet together, knees bent with her hands resting on them with her bottom stuck out, or if it's feet wide apart, stretching down with her hands on the front of her calves. She likes to have something to lean over, or grab onto rather than rely on her own will power to stay in position."
19. Q: What is your ultimate spanking fantasy? (geared toward both)
A: Dave - "I definitely fantasize much more than Cindy. Sometimes I have 'flash fantasies', just a very quick sudden image flashes through my mind then disappears as quickly as it came. One reoccurring fantasy, not sure I'd call it 'ultimate' but it is very powerful and I have it frequently ... Cindy has been very naughty but I don't find out about it immediately. The feelings of guilt build inside her until her tummy just aches deep all the time. Eventually she overcomes her fears and comes to where I'm sitting in the living room carrying the belt or the strop. Without a word she slowly pulls down her jeans, then her panties, and lays herself over the arm of another big overstuffed chair. Reaching back she lays the belt or strop on the small of her back and just waits .... and waits .... and waits ... until I decide it's time. I know she isn't asking for a good girl spankings, because she wants those over my lap with my hand. At least to start out!"
20. Q: Do either of you have any fetishes aside from spanking? A: Cindy - "Oh yeah. Lingerie! Huge fetish … drawers and drawers of it. I could wear a different pair of panties of some type every day of the year! It’s led to some spankings and scoldings, but lucky for me, Dave loves it as much as I do! Sexual fetishes … does bondage count?"
Dave - "That's an understatement! A few times I've made Cindy count her lingerie, but it's been quite a while. She has probably 20 bras, and around 140 panties and thongs! I LOVE her in lingerie so very much. But it has to compliment her body. If it doesn't I've made her take it off and get rid of it. And it can't be loose fitting. I HATE baggy panties on her bottom; it's better to be one size too small than one size too big. The majority of her collection now is low rise, or ultra low rise, or super ultra low rise; but I've had her keep a few pair of full brief panties with sheer backs because there are times I want to spank her in them."
"Bondage is another fetish we never seem to have enough time to play with as much as we'd like. I guess I need to make it more of a priority. In addition I'm very anally focused, and actually enjoy being penetrated more than Cindy does. {smile} But then again, I decide when she'll be invaded back there, not her!"
"Another activity which I'm not sure is a fetish is to sit in a big living room chair and have Cindy kneel on the floor between my spread legs and use lots of our toys to play with my cock and balls and rectum. I just love the different sensations she creates with our clothespins, cock rings, ball stretcher, little leather slapper and little whip. Even though I'm the one experiencing the pain and discomfort we look at this as Cindy serving me, pleasing me."
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Thank you Dave and Cindy for participating in my series, padme's interviews and letting me and everyone else know a bit more about you!! Great answers!! Check out His to Spank, His to Love today!!!
Hope everyone is having a good weekend!!
May the force be with you all!!
~padme
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