 My sister likes to call me the "stepford wife." She makes fun of my choice to stay home sometimes. She has chosen a different path by having a career first and then a family. I chose to have my kids first. I'm not sure if I will ever have a career. I'm not really sure I'd want to. I really enjoy being a stay at home wife. I consider myself lucky that we can have a traditional type of dynamic in our marriage. Some wives are forced to work because of finances and such.
I really enjoy being able to watch my kids grow up and give them a structured and loving family. I have a lot of traditional beliefs and they come from a history of submissive women in my family. My MIL was very glad that I was a submissive housewife for Master Anakin. She told me many times that she was glad that I could be at home and be there for my family. Many people know that my marriage is a traditional one. Some people may not respect it but it was our own choice to the dynamic that would be in our marriage.
Anakin came from a traditional home where his mom stayed home with her children. We both made the choice to have a 1950's type of household. He is the head of the household. He makes all the decisions for our family. I get disciplined (Christian domestic discipline) if I disobey him. It's very simple and it works well for us. We are celebrating our 14 year anniversary this month and continue with a strong force for our family. It is my opinion that my marriage is so strong because of our traditional beliefs. This will keep us together even in the most challenging of times for our marriage. I love and respect my husband and am so glad for our life together. He makes me feel so loved and taken care of.
I am baking some homemade chocolate chip cookies right now. I'm wearing my apron and enjoying baking for my family. I feel like a submissive wife of the 1950's and I love it! I'm a stepford wife and I'm proud of it! :D
May the force be with you all!!
~padme amidala
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My wife and slave,
I'm VERY proud of you for all you contribute to our traditional family; our choice in our relationship, a meeting of like minds, and our path to happiness that fits best with our beliefs. ***GOOD GIRL***
~Husband and Master
I wrote about this very topic on my own blog a few days ago and how ridiculous it is to use the term Stepford Wife as an insult. Feminism is all about choice after all, and if you and I choose this life then more power to us :)
From first hand experience, having a mom who worked, I can tell you it really sucks not having at least one of your parents at home. There was a period of about 2 or 3 years where my stepdad was making enough money that my mom didn't have to work, and I loved having my mom home. She and I had the closest relationship during that time and it was nice not having so much responsibility thrown on me because I was the oldest and had to look after my siblings, make sure the house stayed clean, and cook dinner when my mom was working. I was so disappointed when my mom had to go back to work.
And these days, so many kids are out of control because neither of their parents are home to offer them structure and guidance in their lives. Their parents then turn around and blame the school, teachers, music, tv and whatever else on their child's behavior.
I certainly understand that some mom's have no choice, but to go out and work (many of which would rather stay home). And I have nothing against women who choose to have a career. But I do have serious issues with women who will frown on a woman who chooses to be a stay at home mom and be there for her kids. Maybe I'm a bit prejudice, but I tend to frown on women who choose to be away from their kids when they don't really have to (unless of course their family has a stay at home dad, which is cool too).
Bottom line, I think it's awesome that you have chosen to be a stay at home mom and that you've had the opportunity to do so... and I'm glad that I've been given the same opportunity. I would have been heartbroken if I had to work and couldn't be home with my daughter.
*hugs*
turiya
Sad to say I was a career woman when my children were little. Well I had to basically. My ex husband didn't really like to get off his ass much and do anything. I worked full time and still did all the cooking and cleaning at home. I was so glad when I married Sir and he wanted me to be a stay home wife. I love it. Wouldn't change it for anything in the world.
Thanks for all the great comments on this post! I really appreciate them. :D
Hugs,
padme
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