Q&A about being poly and having an open relationship

I'm sipping my coffee and trying to wake up. I was up at 4 am this morning. At least I slept better and was in bed early last night. I have really wanted to connection with Anakin since what happened on Halloween. He got up for work and I went on twitter. I wrote "Good morning! Up a bit earlier than normal this morning. Hoping to have a morning quickie with @AnakinDarth before he leaves for work. :)" He came over and gave me a swat on the ass and told me to get upstairs. Then he tore off my clothes and fucked me as as hard as I could. Wow! There is nothing better than some great morning sex to start your day off right! :) My very sexy blogger friend, KissinBlueKaren inspired me to write a blog post today. I'm going to do a bit of Q&A for everyone. I get asked some of these questions all the time from people. Please feel free to leave a comment and ask anymore questions. Maybe this can inspire some future blog posts. :) What are you and Anakin looking for? We are always looking for friends. I love to meet people for a coffee and be able to talk about kink openly. I started a local munch at one time because I love to get people together and talk about bdsm. I wish we had more friends that we could have over to our house. Maybe watch a movie or just have a bbq with. You can never have enough friends. I love to have online friends as well as people that I can get together with. I feel lonely sometimes and wish I had a friend to go out for coffee with. Obviously I don't play with all of my friends. I respect it if someone just wants to get together for a coffee and nothing else. No expectations. I am social and love to chat with people. I admit that I spend way too much time on twitter sometimes chatting with people. It would be nice to find some play partners. Play partners who understand boundaries and limits are respected. I think that Anakin and I are a lot of fun to play with. We have a variety of different kinks and toys. It goes from spanking to bdsm play to just having some great sex. We have both had different play partners through the years. We've done all kinds of different play through the years. We are able to keep it simple. And we don't like drama. Creating drama into our marriage or family will get you onto the "shit list" with Anakin. There are some people who are never allowed to play with me again or even see me. They crossed the lines with him and created problems. Getting on his shit list will get you banned for life. He doesn't share with many people so please respect him. I have a safe word "Jedi" when I play with others and this is always respected as well as my rules. I had one Dom use a cane on me as soon as we arrived at the play party. We had discussed limits and the first one I said was "no canes". Not cool. I may play rough with Anakin and we are TPE but I often don't play that way with just anyone. Play partners is different than a relationship. Sometimes people confuse the two. The best example is: Going to Shadow Lane and spanking different people or playing. Just because we played together or I spanked you doesn't mean we are now lovers or in a relationship. I have also played with (and so has Anakin) many, many people that we didn't sleep with. I know it surprised a lot of people that Daemon and I didn't even sleep together but we didn't. Some poly relationships didn't even include sex. But obviously some have. We always respect other people's limits and rules and like to discuss those before we play with people. Anakin and I are both very open minded people. We love to live out out fantasies and have fun. I've been told by many people that we are fun to play with. Maybe it's my submissive nature but I like to make sure everyone is happy. Even when I was the Top I wanted to make sure the girl that I spanked was happy and that I gave her a memorable experience. People don't want to play with you if you aren't fun to play with. We leave the drama at the door. Let's have fun and live out some fantasies together. We tend to take sexual relationships with people very seriously and that is discussed at length before that happens. I'm open to one-night-stands (or play) but I am extremely picky (and so is Anakin) about who we both sleep with. People often think that because I'm poly that it automatically means they get to sleep with me. I always need permission from Anakin though before I sleep with anyone. And trust me...that can be hard to get. Anakin is very protective of me even though he will share me with others. Anakin and I enjoy all kinds of play with play partners. From playing on the phone (you listening to me spank myself or get spanked. me cumming for you, etc..) to naughty webcam play. It's obviously a lot of fun though to play in person. Anakin isn't a fan of going to events but we are always into going to a private play party or having one in our home. We can travel although we have kids. So trips need to be planned out and worth our time. I don't want to travel half way across Canada thinking that something is going to happen and it doesn't. Traveling is expensive and it needs to be worth the time and money. Anakin WILL go to an event if you give him some encouragement. The last girl he played with said she'd meet us there in a schoolgirl costume. Well that got his attention and he came to Rascal's for the first time! :) Obviously we need to know you very well though if we invite you into our home. Anakin and I don't always play together. But I'll admit that I much more prefer to play with someone who includes my Master. Anakin is content to watch things in the shadows sometimes. I was invited to have a threesome once with Master R and his slave. I said yes on one condition. Anakin had to be a part of it. So he watched me fucking them and jerked off in the shadows. It was really hot! R's slave felt uncomfortable with Anakin fucking her so we were able to work around it so that everyone enjoyed their night. :) We are also hoping to have poly relationships with other people. Both of us have loved others in our relationships. But this is very hard to find. Making a poly relationship work is very challenging and can sometimes come with too much drama. We've become a lot more picky as well about who we chose to let into our relationship and lives this time. We have learned from some very bad experiences through the years. Be careful about who you let into your lives and relationship. Please be clear about what you are looking for when e-mailing or messaging us. Do you want a simple spanking with nothing else? Or maybe you want a poly relationship and are interested in dating. Do you want to webcam together? I often get confused because some people don't spell it out. I'm a straight forward type of girl and appreciate it when people get to the point. Please don't waste our time if you don't know what you want. I hate chasing people or trying to figure out what they want. I'd much rather someone come to me and we can discuss what it is you are interested in. When did you become poly and open your marriage? Poly is not new for us. We are both experienced when it comes to poly/having an open relationship. We became poly in June 1997. We had found D/s online and I met a friend (R's slave) who introduced me to the world of poly and having an open marriage. She had one and it inspired us to talk about it and give it a try. I met R (my first Master and Mentor) and it all went from there. Do you do 3-somes, 4-somes, and moresomes? Anakin and I have both had several threesomes. Both M/M/F and F/F/M. We've had several 4-somes before with other couples and playing or such. But not too sure about moresomes. I don't think we have ever played with more than 4 people together. Anakin is a very private kind of guy when it comes to play though. That's probably why we haven't done play in bigger groups like that. Is Anakin bisexual? Are you? You'd be surprised how many times I've been asked this. lol. I guess people assume he might be because of the threesomes with him and R. No. He is not bisexual. Him and R were not sexual in any way during that threesome. Anakin is really great at sharing me though. He's watched me fuck other guys. He's got a kinky and open mind. It turns him on to watch me being a slut with other guys. And enjoys it when I get naughty and flirt. Flirting online doesn't bother Anakin at all. He likes it when I am a Twitter flirt. Most people probably don't realize sometimes just how kinky Anakin can be. He surprised me once with a 3-some with him and Master R. I didn't know it and was tied up and he arrived at our door. I am bisexual. I love being with other women. I've dirty danced with more women than I could count. I've slept with a few women and played with many. It's fun and I like it a lot. The challenge for me has been finding women to date/sleep with. Not easy. I get WAY more e-mails from men than women who are interested in playing or fucking me. I love to eat pussy. :) Some women say they are bi but don't mean it. I'm bi all the way! I love to make a woman cum and have been told that I'm quite good at it. :) How do you handle jealousy in your poly relationship? Anakin and I have both had our jealous moments in our relationship, especially when our relationship was new to poly. We had only been dating for 6 months when we opened up our relationship and maybe that was too early. It caused some drama and problems. Anakin didn't like the fact that R was married and caused lots of angry e-mails. It took a while before they became friends. We are not jealous people and are secure in our marriage and relationship. We tend to not date people when our marriage is having problems. We never play with people if we've had a big fight. This happened once and it caused problems. Anakin and our family is my number #1 priority. Please respect that or don't get involved with us. Anakin is my Master and what he says goes. I often go out to play with people with a set of rules that I must follow. There have been countless guys who often try to tell Anakin how to Dom me. Don't do it. Just don't. He's the boss. And if you fuck with him, you won't get to play with me. Do you have rules when dating/playing with people? Yes although those can be different from who we play with or are dating. Rules can often change over time too. Obviously trust is a HUGE factor in having an open marriage or relationship. Anakin and I tell each other EVERYTHING. No secrets in our relationship. We always communicate also at length if anyone new is entering the picture. Obviously we always use safe sex when it comes to sleeping with other people. I've learned the hard way (through my Toronto trip) that condoms are not always effective. Anakin has had a vasectomy. So no worries about birth control for us but we always use it with others. We are also tested regularly. Does Anakin date/fuck other women? Yes. He's both fucked and dated other women. I used to hear all the details of the college girls that he fucked when we were friends. It would turn me on. I've seen him fuck other women. I've seen him spank other women as well. And I love it. It turns him on too when I get all turned on watching him with another woman. Are you swingers? This is something a bit new for us but something we have both been interested in. We are both very interested in the swinging lifestyle and have gone to a few swinging dances. Even met a couple that we both were going to swing with. But she wasn't bi and he was the one pushing for it. It would be great to find some swingers to have some fun with although it's been hard to find any in our local area. Do you spank men/women? Or do you co-top? I don't spank men. I do like to be a Top though for women. I've spanked a few girls and liked it. :) Anakin and I have co-topped before and enjoyed it. I'd like to do more of that. Anakin is always looking for naughty girls to spank as well. :) You can always refer to my Fetlife profile for more information about us. We are both on there as "padmeamidala" and "Anakin". Our fetishes are also on there so you can check out what we are both into. Please let us know if you are ever interested in being friends, playing, fucking, swinging, or being in a relationship with either of us. We are always open to possibilities and getting to know you better. Let's get to know each other and see where it goes... May the force be with you all!! ~padme amidala